went to send my cousin's boyfriend off at the airport todayy. he's going off to myanmar for work for 1 whole month.. wahh dont know how my cousin going to survive man. so damn llongg..anyway my cousin and bf are 23 years old and theyve been together for nearly 6 years.. from sec school till now..
6 years is so damn long you knoww..i always find it amazing that some people can maintain the relationship for so long, maybe i guess im not matured enough yett. so far the longest relationship i had was for about a year, and well, could say it ended in a tragedy. not like tragedy where people die and get sick and stuff, but well, just a tragedy i guess..
yeahh its really quite cool la, being together for 6 yearss..i guess it takes alot of effort to be able to maintain that love for so long, and be tolerable and accepting towards each other for so long. start of relationship is always the easiest, where everything just falls into place..then after that "honeymoon" period, people start seeing the flaws in their other half and realise life isnt a bed of roses after all. this is when some couples just simply give up, while the others who truly love and appreciate each other will continue to love in spite of the flaws and imperfections they see.
well, i guess then the two persons' lifestyles start to integrate and its feels good being able to rely on someone else in your life. this can only happenn if the two people truly accept each other and have even start to think about the future together or maybe just thinking that the other party will continue to exist in his/her own future. then there's this reliance and dependence that's nice and cool. you never ever thought there would be someone you can trust so much.
well, things go on and the couple has to keep that spark of love alive in the relationship. no one should ever take the other for granted. give little small surprises and never forget those promises you make. tell each other you love them time to time, let each other know you truly care. don't ever think "since we've been together for awhile, i don't need to make so much effort anymore, things will naturally fall into place." true enough, things will. but i guess this is the time people start to have doubts and sometimes think alot, "is he/she the one i want to spend my life with?", "does she/he really love me for who i am?" insecurities set in, and sometimes get better of one's rational mind. sometimes one person might do or ask some ridiculous things that you may think is so foolish or childish. but little things make the big difference. everyone needs the re-assurance now and then, no one is ever so sure of him/herself.
well, there's so so much involved to maintain a relationship. you need to give and take, respect each other, learn to sacrifice, be tactful and sensitive, be caring loving sweet romantic, communicate effectively and sensibly etc etc etc.. but not everyone is born well-versed and pro in such stuff, people have to learn and be taught. so i feel that the most importantly ultimately, is how bad you want it. how bad you want that special someone to stay forever. how much you truly care for that person. cos anything can be learnt, all problems can be solved, all character differences can be overcome, if you truly want it. and truly want it TOGETHER.
heh damn sweet right? this was candid la, not posed for.
go and study huimin!!!!
6 years is so damn long you knoww..i always find it amazing that some people can maintain the relationship for so long, maybe i guess im not matured enough yett. so far the longest relationship i had was for about a year, and well, could say it ended in a tragedy. not like tragedy where people die and get sick and stuff, but well, just a tragedy i guess..
yeahh its really quite cool la, being together for 6 yearss..i guess it takes alot of effort to be able to maintain that love for so long, and be tolerable and accepting towards each other for so long. start of relationship is always the easiest, where everything just falls into place..then after that "honeymoon" period, people start seeing the flaws in their other half and realise life isnt a bed of roses after all. this is when some couples just simply give up, while the others who truly love and appreciate each other will continue to love in spite of the flaws and imperfections they see.
well, i guess then the two persons' lifestyles start to integrate and its feels good being able to rely on someone else in your life. this can only happenn if the two people truly accept each other and have even start to think about the future together or maybe just thinking that the other party will continue to exist in his/her own future. then there's this reliance and dependence that's nice and cool. you never ever thought there would be someone you can trust so much.
well, things go on and the couple has to keep that spark of love alive in the relationship. no one should ever take the other for granted. give little small surprises and never forget those promises you make. tell each other you love them time to time, let each other know you truly care. don't ever think "since we've been together for awhile, i don't need to make so much effort anymore, things will naturally fall into place." true enough, things will. but i guess this is the time people start to have doubts and sometimes think alot, "is he/she the one i want to spend my life with?", "does she/he really love me for who i am?" insecurities set in, and sometimes get better of one's rational mind. sometimes one person might do or ask some ridiculous things that you may think is so foolish or childish. but little things make the big difference. everyone needs the re-assurance now and then, no one is ever so sure of him/herself.
well, there's so so much involved to maintain a relationship. you need to give and take, respect each other, learn to sacrifice, be tactful and sensitive, be caring loving sweet romantic, communicate effectively and sensibly etc etc etc.. but not everyone is born well-versed and pro in such stuff, people have to learn and be taught. so i feel that the most importantly ultimately, is how bad you want it. how bad you want that special someone to stay forever. how much you truly care for that person. cos anything can be learnt, all problems can be solved, all character differences can be overcome, if you truly want it. and truly want it TOGETHER.
heh damn sweet right? this was candid la, not posed for.
go and study huimin!!!!
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